To Grieve Properly is More Natural Than You Think

Before our daughter passed, it was pretty natural for us to talk with our family, friends and co-workers about her.  She was born with cerebral palsy, and it caused issues with her both physically and intellectually.  She was perpetually 5 years old and, at nearly 25 years of age, loved Barney, the Wiggles and Disney... Continue Reading →


When parents await their first child, they are bombarded by advice, counsel and stories about "firsts". First cry. First smile.  First rolling over. First tooth. First crawl. First steps. First word. First full night of sleep.  These are described as rights of passage, and worn with badges of honor.  For Ted and me, our first... Continue Reading →

A Bit More Time: The “Final” Chapter

We planned Dorothie's memorial service for later in the summer.  It gave us time to contact family, and for our friend, and former priest, to officiate. It really is a surreal experience to be sitting down with family, planning a memorial service for your child.  I had helped plan services for other family, from grandparents to... Continue Reading →

Celebrating Emma: 20 Years of Joy

Today, I'm stepping away from our grief journey to celebrate the life of our sweet Emma Joy.  Twenty years ago today she entered the world,  a plump bundle of joy with a wisp of blonde hair and a soft cry.  She has personified joy from the moment she entered the world, a trait that has only... Continue Reading →

A Bit More Time, Part 3

From entering the airport in Paris, to waiting to board the plane, less than an hour had passed. The Delta team was amazing. While sitting in the boarding area, away from the crowd, people came to us and gave us their condolences. But I still wasn't fully accepting the reality. I still was angry with myself for... Continue Reading →

A Bit More Time, Part 2

Our dream trip would take us first to Paris, then to England, where we would meet our friends to go narrow boating through the back country canals. The flight, though long, was uneventful, and we reached our destination with every piece of luggage we brought. It was late, and the mother of the man we... Continue Reading →

A Bit More Time, Part 1

-It has been four years since I last attempted to create a blog.  All good intentions aside, like so many things I've started in my lifetime, this project was tossed on the "I'll get to it later when I have a bit more time" shelf. Isn't that just like the human experience.  We allow ourselves... Continue Reading →

Paradise Redefined

When my husband and I began talking about having children two decades ago, like other young couples, we had an idea of what our kids would be like.  Most likely they would have brown or black hair, brown or hazel eyes, amazing musical abilities, and might even be athletic.  This was how we imagined them. ... Continue Reading →

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